How you do anything is how you do everything. It’s a saying I’ve heard kicking about for a few years now and it’s actually a decent way of finding out what you might be doing wrong… in anything you do. What it basically means is that your traits and idiosyncrasies tend to run through all aspects of your life. Some you notice, others you might not.
Ever leave things half done? Or even worse, nine tenths complete? This isn’t a bad example of where you’d likely find one of these awkward strains of difficulty worming its way through everything you do with your life. You might find you have a tendency to stop reading a book before it’s finished. Or you tidy a room and don’t bother with the finishing touches. Maybe you finish a project, but miss out some of the finer, yet vital details. If this is the case for you, you can guarantee that in some way it is stopping you achieving the goals you’re after.
I chose incompleteness as an example because it is definitely one of the most common, but have a good think about your traits. What could you be doing better? What might you not be doing that you should be? Once you’ve spotted it, change it. Right down to the tiniest version of the problem. Using the example of not getting things finished, go finish something that you know you’ve left, prematurely. Make excuses to develop your new habit as a completer finisher. Take on projects. Small ones, then bigger ones.
I’ve mentioned the importance of developing good habits before. This time I’m referring to getting rid of bad habits and sticking a few good ones in their place. With consistency, you’ll soon convince your brain that you are, by nature, someone who [insert desired attribute here]. Once you’ve reprogrammed your hard drive and have it utterly convinced, it’ll start to work in your favour. Without conscious effort or intervention, you infallibly live up to your self-image. Once you have altered that self-image for the better, you will find it more uncomfortable physically and mentally to not behave in the way you’ve conditioned yourself to. Champion result.
In summary, find what’s not working and how it’s affecting all the different areas of your life. Change the habit at every available opportunity plus create opportunities.